There's a new student at the school. She stares at her tray in the crowded cafeteria, scanning the room for an empty seat. She doesn't recognize a single face. Conversations and laughter fill the space, but none of it includes her. It's her third week at this new school, and still, she hasn't found her place.
She thought making friends would be easier. Back home, she always had people to sit with, to text after school, to walk with in the halls. But here, she feels invisible. She walks to an empty table, keeping her head down, hoping no one notices how alone she is.
This feeling—loneliness, isolation, rejection—is something many high school students experience when they don't have a solid friend group. And it's more than just an awkward phase. Studies show that social belonging is crucial for mental and emotional well-being, and without a strong support system, teens can feel lost, anxious, and even depressed.
Friendships in high school are more than just social perks—they're a fundamental part of a teen's development. Adolescence is a time of self-discovery, and having close friends provides the validation and support that young people need to navigate this confusing stage of life. When students feel like they belong, they tend to have higher self-esteem, perform better academically, and feel emotionally supported. They also develop important social skills and gain confidence in their identity.
"When you don't have a best friend or a friendship group, it can make you feel sad, upset, and lonely," notes Linsey Lunny, CEO of Hidden Strength. "It can be difficult to figure out why you're finding it difficult to make friends, but once you work out what difficulties are standing in your way, you can take steps to address them." Without this sense of belonging, high school can feel overwhelming and isolating.
Students who struggle to find a friend group often experience deep loneliness. Walking through the halls alone, eating lunch by themselves, or watching classmates make weekend plans they aren't included in can take a significant emotional toll. Over time, this isolation can lead to increased feelings of anxiety and depression, social withdrawal, and a fear of rejection. It can also lower motivation to participate in school activities and increase the likelihood of experiencing bullying.
For many teens, being without a friend group isn't just about feeling lonely—it's about feeling like they don't belong anywhere.
Having a supportive group of friends provides emotional stability in ways that even the most understanding parents and teachers can't. Friends offer a safe space to talk about struggles, whether it's academic stress, dating drama, or family issues. They help build confidence, making it easier to take social risks, join clubs, or speak up in class. They also play a crucial role in developing healthy coping skills. Facing stress alone can feel overwhelming, but with friends, students learn how to manage challenges through humor, advice, or distraction.
Beyond just support, friendships bring joy. Laughing in the hallway, sharing inside jokes, and late-night group chats turn high school into something more than just a daily routine—it becomes an experience to remember.
"Many people also have a fear of rejection and are worried about being judged," Lunny says. "Everyone feels nervous when they first reach out to make a friend, but this gets easier with time. Try making small talk or just saying ‘hi' in passing to begin with and build up your communication from there."
Building friendships takes time, and taking small steps can help. Joining clubs and activities is one of the best ways to meet like-minded people, whether it's through theater, debate, sports, or an art club. Being open and approachable can also make a difference. Simple gestures like making eye contact, smiling, and showing interest in others' conversations can invite connection.
Taking the initiative to sit with new people at lunch or striking up a casual conversation in class can open the door to new friendships. Some students may not find a large friend group, but having just one close friend can make all the difference.
High school is difficult enough on its own. Having a friend group can make it feel a little less lonely and a lot more meaningful. Because, in the end, it's not just about fitting in—it's about finding people who make you feel like you truly belong.
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